Welcome to the Tarosophy Tarot Professionals Members Blog Hop! Our featured subject for February is using tarot for better relationships. You may click previous and next for other blogs participating, and you can click master list to see all of us in the lineup! Read on for my own contribution. Enjoy!
Relationship Tarot Readings
Relationship readings. You’ve heard about them. You’ve seen them. You may have even asked for one yourself. Chances are you were feeling confused and lost but full of hope and love all at once. Most clients for relationship readings are focused on what the other people involved are feeling or doing. That’s not always the best question. I prefer to hold up a mirror to see what you might do for yourself. What actions you can take, where your attention should focus, and discovering the various forces at play.
I always say there are no tall dark strangers in my readings. There are plenty of insights and practical actions to be uncovered. Let’s have a look at a few ideas I’ve come up with over the years.
Finding Love and Deeper Connections
One simple method to figure out where love is at play in your life is to shuffle the deck and sift through it until you find the Lovers Card. You’ll want to remove the card along with the card on top of it and the card behind it. Now you have a two card spread hinged on the influence of the Lovers.
What do you need to know? Assign questions or insights you seek to each card. Are you single? One card could be where to find love, and the second card could be what do about it. If you’re already in a relationship, you could use this method to figure out what your best connection is to your partner, and use the other card to discover how to deepen that connection. You can seek to answer any two questions with this method. Keep it focused on gaining knowledge and awareness while also providing an action.
Can Anybody Find Me …Someone …To Love
I remember one client who was confused about which new love interest should get her full attention. The spread was focused on the strengths and weaknesses of each option. The outcome still left too much uncertainty to make a decision. Each possible new partner seemed to be equally qualified for a good start. The reading removed a lot of self doubt and uncertainty while making the decision even harder. I decided to employ the court cards to help narrow down my client’s elusive choice.
Remove the court cards from your deck. Shuffle and fan the cards out across the table. Tell your client to choose one card. Be clear on what the card will signify before your client makes the decision. Will the card pulled be the one who should be left behind, or shall the card pulled be the one you choose. The qualities of the court cards, especially in their representation as people, are a wonderful solution to this problem.
Be Flexible In Your Reading
I’m an advocate for using predetermined spreads. That means readings follow a pattern from a clear beginning to a set end. I’m also an advocate for using free form reading within the spread. I might have set questions I want to answer as we go along, but I”m also looking for the flow of energy and other subtle clues the cards provide.
I was reading for a woman that was uncertain about her love life. She was single and recently divorced. When we sat down to do the reading, I was looking for different avenues of opportunity she could explore. We were discovering how she could garner the best success for herself. The reading flowed nicely from position to position.
One hidden thread kept tugging at my attention. I couldn’t ignore it so I asked for clarification.
“Are you interested in someone specific now?” She nodded yes. I probed further, “Are you feeling pulled in two directions? Probably one that feels really comfortable and familiar and the other being very risky and exciting?” Again, my client said I was right without offering much more information.
I was looking at the spread. The Page of Cups sat on top while the King of Cups chilled at the bottom. Those two cards were the reason I was asking for more personal information. My instinct had one more insight to unravel. “Are you torn between a woman and man?” Stunned silence followed for a a minute. Confirmation of my suspicion followed with some surprised laughter. The rest of the reading transformed into more focused insight and self awareness. It remains one of my favorite readings to this day.
The client isn’t always going to come right out with the whole truth and nothing but the truth. They may not even be aware of what they really want to know. The combination of reading fixed positions while being flexible enough to allow free form insights to pop out made all the difference.
That’s A Wrap
Love. Attraction. Connections.
These are powerful forces in our life. There are many ways to read them in Tarot. Remain focused on your client’s need for answers and guidance. Remember these can be tricky waters to navigate even with the best of intentions so please, above all else, do no harm.
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